| You may
be enjoying bisexual pictures and porn and wondering if this makes
you bisexual.
The fact is, it's entirely up to you
to decide whether you're bisexual or not.
In a way, bisexuality is just a label
and it's how we feel about ourselves that makes a difference. You
may choose to call yourself bisexual if you feel attracted to both
sexes. Indeed, bisexual organisations say you can be celibate and
still bisexual, as it's the attraction that matters.
Studies by Alfred Kinsey almost 50 years ago revealed that vast numbers
of people feel attracted to members of both sexes at some time during
their lives. This kind of bisexuality, then, is extremely common,
and perfectly normal.
Of course, acting on your feelings can make a big difference. There
are plenty of monogamous, outwardly heterosexual people who do not
act on their attraction (perhaps they simply fantasise, or look for
bisexual pictures like those on this site). There are others who do
more than think about it, and it's those people whom society considers
to be "bisexual."
Bisexuals may have a single encounter with the same sex, or many over
many years, with both sexes. Again, it all comes down to what the
individual wishes to do.
Sexuality is an aspect of ourselves that develops over time. Teens
who may be feeling confused about their sexuality need to relax and
learn to be happy with themselves. It may be that their preferences
will develop and they will lean one way or another, or perhaps they
will continue to feel attracted to both sexes for the rest of their
lives. Repressing these kinds of feelings only leads to anxiety later
on.
And, of course, sex can be greatly different to love. Meeting the
right person and committing to that person can mean that pursuing
an active bisexual lifestyle is no longer compatible with the relationship.
That too, is OK. Bisexuals are found in all sorts of relationships.
Some work out a way to pursue their sexuality, and some are happy
to remain monogamous. Trust, communication and respect are always
the important factors.
If you are uncertain about your sexuality, it will help to visit the
various resources listed on this site, and learn more about bisexuality. |
